A sapiosexual myself, I prioritize mental connection before physical attraction in the search for a soulmate, but it's proven difficult to find a mind-match with someone who can sustain my "cool weird" quirkiness.
My dad came up with this great question which offers insight on the ultimate end game for an individual's goals.
Famous in Your Field = very well known in your specific business industry, where you are at the forefront of the field, but are not well-known outside of it. Example: my dad was a very esteemed, established, and successful career coach & resume writer, but his work is more well-known to others in the same industry than to outsiders.
Famous in Real Life = any form of celebrity-type status, from A-lister to Z-lister, with a global fanbase and direct ability to influence thousands of people on a consistent basis. Examples: celebrities, reality TV stars, bloggers, influencers, etc.
The answer to this question shouldn't really determine whether or not to stay in a relationship, but it does offer a ton of insight. Sure, your views can differ with those of your partner, but it's better to acknowledge where you both stand on the end game for your individual goals before walking down the aisle.
#Blessed to have a beautiful twin sister, the 2 best Fairy Godmothers (Aunt Val & Frenchie), the greatest group of girls I've been friends with since the 5th grade and those from college, and my girl clique is thick!
It's become more apparent since my father's death that the family & friends I have now are the ones who really matter in my life, and I want them in it forever.
These are the people bringing me up from my worst, who consistently make me a better person. I won't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate each of them for all they are worth to me, because I could never be at my best without them.
This concept is difficult for many to understand, so let me further explain. Simply put, this question asks which of the three options (dinner, appetizer, dessert), you could eat every day for the rest of your life (marry), eat only once in awhile (shag), or could do without forever (kill). The question is solely based on food preferences, and is in no way related to any sexual activity.
It's important to note here that you and your partner may be better off not having the same answer in certain scenarios. This is especially true if you have an intense sweet tooth like me. I'm one bad relationship away from severe moodiness without sweets, or diabetes from overdoing it, so it's important I seek someone who can help me achieve a better balance in my dietary choices.
My Answer:
Shag: Appetizers - I count tapas and small plates as appetizers, and am bored by the idea of having the same thing every day, so I'd rather have a multitude of options vs. a set dinner each night.
Marry: Dessert - I could figuratively and quite possibly literally eat a porterhouse steak dinner for 2, and be absolutely full to the point of vomiting...and STILL want something sweet. There will never be a time I don't want dessert, so if I could eat it every day for the rest of my life, I would!
Kill: Dinner - I would kill dinner dead! No regrets, not a care in the world, never looking back!
My Partner's Ideal Answer:
Shag: Dessert - It's important to note where dessert falls in line with my partner's preferences. Shagging dessert means looking at the dessert menu, but not always make the leap into sweetness. If someone were to kill dessert, that means they could do without ever looking at the dessert menu. Having someone in my life who can occasionally indulge without overdoing it is important to me. I can't live a life without dessert, it's just too important to me <3
Marry: Dinner - Since I prefer many options to one specific dinner, I'd be better suited for someone with a more stable approach in this answer.
Kill: Appetizers - The only real difference between marrying and shagging the appetizers is the result of widely preferring to eat one set food item every day (like fish for example) to eating a plethora of different food options at a time (like small plates or tapas). The answer can follow either a logical or illogical thought pattern, but the choice does provide distinction in the match process.
If you and your partner both choose the same response, that's all right as well! This is mainly to distinguish the dessert types and the likes.
This may seem extremely strange, but food is an important yet overlooked area in the dating realm these days!
30 Rock is undoubtedly my favorite TV show. I oddly prefer television to music while working, so I've mindlessly watched every 30 Rock episode about 100 times each. Although it was on air for 7 seasons, 30 Rock has proven a cult TV show, and it's been extremely hard for me to find someone with the same appreciation I have for the series.
Running my own business means long and late hours that will oftentimes overlap into my personal time. I require my partner respect my career and agree to spend time some working time together for projects I can sit in front of the TV for. A less seductive version of Netflix & Chill with the demand of 30 Rock as the main show.
Think of a TV show that you cannot live without, one that you could never get sick of no matter how many times you watch it. If your choice matches that of your partner, then move on to qualifying question #2!